• As a clinician: non-judgmental, upbeat, connected

• My counseling style: empowering, insightful, growth-oriented

• My goals for my clients: peace, confidence, wholeness

With Couples and Relationships

• Infidelity and Breaches of Trust

• Mixed Faith Relationships

With Sexuality (Individuals and Relationships)

• Unwanted/Out of Control Sexual Behavior (“Sex Addiction”)

• Differences in Levels of Desire (Libido)

• Sexless/Unconsummated Marriages/Relationships

• Religion and Sexuality

• Men’s Sexuality, Health, and Functioning

Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy (Individuals and Relationships)

• Depression and Anxiety

• Shame and Self-Worth

• Couples Connection

• Existential or Spiritual Distress

• Trauma

• Religious Trauma and Shame

1. You’re a person, not a problem.
   I don’t see you as your problem. I see you for you. I want to help you to move beyond seeing yourself in terms of where you are hurting or struggling. You are a nuanced, wonderful human being. We’ll figure out the problems together.

2. There’s no room for shame in my office.

   No one becomes a better person by being made to feel worse about themselves. You may have been hurt by other people or events in your life. You may have made choices you regret. You may not like what is happening in your life. But YOU yourself are not bad, broken, worthless, or horrible. You’re a human being like the rest of us and we are capable of changing, healing, and growing.

3. We can change ourselves only when we can accept ourselves.
   You can’t figure out how to get to your destination if you refuse to accept your current location. Similarly, change can’t happen if we can’t accept who, how, and where we are. That includes the thoughts we are having, the emotions we feel (yes, even us men), and the situation we are in. By accepting ourselves in the moment, we then have the capacity to find growth, healing, and happiness.

You’re still reading? Great! Let me tell you a bit more about me and how I ended up where I am.

I’ve been in the helping fields since I can remember. I’ve worked as an EMT in an ambulance, a 911 dispatcher, a daycare worker, an elder care worker, a truancy mediator, and a host of other areas. In the end though, becoming a counselor was my passion and goal.

I’m a licensed marriage and family therapist (Colorado and Wyoming) and an AASECT certified sex therapist. I chose this path because I have a deep passion for helping people heal and grow the most important but complicated relationships in their lives: with their sexuality and with their loved ones. I’ve devoted hundreds of hours to advanced, post-degree education and professional development in order to offer my clients the exceptional services. I’ve brought on and supervised/mentored other clinicians in my practice who share my passions so that we can continue to expand the number of people we can help.

Along the way, I had to deal with my own issues that, at past times, has left me flooding and struggling. I’ve had to confront my own lifelong issues of depression (it’s managed pretty well now). I’ve been through relational struggles. I’ve wrestled with feelings of intense shame, inferiority, and inadequacy. I’ve made more than my fair share of mistakes in my life and my relationships as a friend, a husband, and a father.

Thankfully, I have been incredibly fortunate in my personal and professional journey. I have connected and worked with amazing therapists, educators, and other professionals. I have learned from brilliant professors and authors. I have connected with remarkable friends (and family). They and the lessons I have learned from them have sustained me in some of the grueling work of growth, healing, and acceptance that I have gone through.

This path hasn’t been easy. It isn’t easy for anyone. My experiences have only deepened my compassion for my clients and all of humanity as we all walk along the difficult sections of life’s path.

I look forward to walking alongside you.